1. Have Fun For The Sake Of Fun!!
I know it sounds obvious but many of us always need to have an agenda or reason for doing things. Play and carefree fun can re-energise and re-inspire. In fact, sometimes not knowing where we are going, being spontaneous and stepping into the unknown with courage and an open heart is very scary. And that’s precisely why opening yourself up for this kind of reckless abandon is necessary and so useful for growing in life, business and love.
Any opportunity where you get to experience the limits of your own comfort zone is worthy.
If you go on holiday let some of it be unplanned.
If you go to buy ingredients for dinner be inspired by what you find at the market or store.
If you go on a date, enjoy being in the moment or decide to go somewhere, perhaps where there are games, and you can play for the sake of playing and sharing in the fun of that.
Strategy and outcome are such a massive part of culture. It’s time, especially at the beginning of the year, to unburden ourselves from these shackles and get re-energized and re-inspired by living in the spirit of the moment, in the spirit of our inner child.
2. Find A Focus
After opening yourself up to the endless possibilities of fun and spontaneity it’s time to find a priority and focus for the year.
If you run a business, then what part of the business is going to be your main focus?
If you are focused on your health, then how are you going to stay focused on this aspect of your life?
If you want a relationship, then perhaps your focus needs to be on your relationship with yourself.
What is the most important focus for you this year?
I would recommend no more than three — and probably no more than one at a time. If you have three, then you want to split them up into different parts of the year.
If you are going to do something incredibly well, then it’s going to take laser focus. It’s going to take drilling down into that focus and identifying the finer details.
This isn’t a time for execution. We’re not there yet. It’s time to focus on the steps involved in what you want to achieve.
What are you going to focus into reality this year? Focus is about your ideas being focused enough to the point where they have a chance to come into reality, to manifest on the material plane Make your focus the core intention of every day. Base your decisions and your life around it. It will seem like magic if you do this — magically manifesting that focus into your reality. Make your focus your mantra and become vigilant on your focus.
3. Find Time To Go Inward
If you are not tapping into your intuition then your not using one of the great powerhouse skills you have at your fingertips.
This year take time to sit quietly three times a week to go inward; to silence the mind. In this stillness you will become better practised at hearing your higher self, of becoming your own best guide.
Often we seek all the answers outside of ourselves. We ask others for approval, guidance and counsel. There is nothing wrong with that. However, only we know what we truly need and want. And the more we can tap into this intuitive wisdom the more empowered we become in our own decision making and problem solving.
The intuitive voice is a different voice to the constant mind chatter that fills our head most of the day. It can come in a form that is unique to ourselves — sometimes in visions or pictures, sometimes in a feeling, sometimes in a voice that speaks to us that may sound different to the mind chatter voice.
When we find the time to go inward to silence the mind this is where we can begin to recognise this unique, intuitive voice or vision that we all posses.
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4. Congratulate And Love Yourself
Becoming your own best friend is something that I feel ought to be on every day’s and every year’s list.
The world can be critical, life can be challenging. Loving rather than blaming yourself through these times and all times is medicine that can never be practised enough.
When the inner critic comes knocking, try a loving thought or self-endorsing thought instead. Things aren’t going to change by beating yourself up. What happened can’t be changed.
At first positive self-talk may seem fake, it may seem forced. Oh well! Keep going. Eventually your mocking mind will give up and start to believe you.
You’ve got to live with yourself every day. You’re there morning till night. Start now because you’re not going away.
Become a ninja in the art of incredible self-love.
Look for patterns of over-giving. Look for ways in which you sabotage your own sense of equilibrium.
Treat yourself with the dignity and respect of a revered king or queen.
Give yourself this gift and watch how life and success transform accordingly.
5. Organise and Systemise
This comes natural to some and a disaster to others.
Perhaps this point seems foreign, odd or out of place for some. Believe me, this has been a challenge in my life. But here’s why it’s so important.
Our greatest asset is time. The more organised your life and business/career is, the more time you save. At first it will take time.
But once everything is in place that means you don’t need to think about it anymore. It’s the status quo.
Moreover, it means someone else can now do those tasks freeing you up for your higher goals and more exciting tasks.
Split your life into five quadrants:
- Career
- Health
- Finances
- Pleasure
- Relationships
Organise and systemise these parts of your life so they can be fulfilled and run without having to re-think them through every single time.
As a side-note I haven’t mastered organising my relationship quadrant. Perhaps this one is a mystery that cannot be organised!
If all of that seems too much to organise and systemise at once, then pick one.
Pick your main focus. And just do that one superbly for the time being.
6. Learn Something New
The number one way to remain young and healthy is to keep learning; to exercise the mind.
So if you want to stay young and attractive then learn something new this year!
Personally I would pick something that is going to help you with your main focus. Or perhaps pick something that helps you have more fun for the sake of fun. It could even be learning more ways to love yourself.
Whatever it is, take the pressure off getting it right. Take the pressure off having to learn it by a certain date to a certain standard. My guess is if you are reading this you already put a lot of pressure on yourself … am I right?
Pick something that can and will fit into your lifestyle easily. Pick something that is going to make you proud and help your life in some way or give you pleasure.
The key is to learn it and do something with it. Knowledge for the sake of knowledge is kind of a waste. Learn it and do something with your new skill or knowledge. Take action on it and perhaps even teach someone else what you have learnt.
7. Make A New Friend, Joint Venture Or Partnership
The second last step is relationships. Form a new relationship with somebody this year. Depending on your focus and depending on whether you are in business for yourself, joint ventures are the fastest and most exciting way to grow your business.
Joint venturing and new relationships can make business a whole lot more fun and worthwhile. Joint venturing is where we find the most growth in our business both financially and personally. Ad of course that’s not without its challenges.
However, most of the challenges can be avoided.
The key is to be discerning with whom you form a new joint venture or friendship. Don’t just jump on board with the newest and brightest candidate. Protect your heart and protect your assets. Go in openly but go in with your eyes wide open and do your due diligence on the person. Open heart, but big fence. Let them earn your trust and the privilege to do business with you.
8. Dress Well And Take Pride In Your Appearance
Never underestimate your presence in the world. Looking good is a secret weapon that brings you favourable attention, compliments, friends and respect. It doesn’t mean you need to be aesthetically beautiful. It doesn’t mean you need to be a size eight model. It just means you need to know what looks good on you and strut it with confidence and style.
Buy yourself two new outfits this year — one for summer and one for winter.
Spend some time looking and spend whatever you can afford. If you need help then get it. If this isn’t your department then find someone who can advise you to get a re-boot and makeover. It will bring you happiness and prosperity.
The world is based on perceptions. People judge you within five seconds of meeting you. I don’t make the rules, I just know how to use them. If you want to harness your greatest secret weapon this year then do yourself a favour and look the part. Look like the most stylish person in the room because people will want to know you, talk to you and do business with you.
It will transform your day and transform your year.
Good luck in your sweet 16 year. May business, brains and beauty bless your life and bring you abundant.
ELK
